Danger of 'Should' Statements

Are you aware of the words you use?

I have spoken with each and every one of my clients this month to help bring awareness to their ‘should statements’.  I call attention to when they use the word ‘should’, what surrounds this word, and the feelings it evokes. We then reframe the statement to replace the word ‘should’ with something more appropriate.

Think about your last ‘should statement’.  It may have sounded something like this...“I should take out the trash”, “He should not be saying that”, “We should go on a vacation”, “I should be doing that”, “I should feel happy”.  

By using ‘should’, you’re setting an expectation that is unable to be met.  In turn you may feel sad, depressed, unworthy or other negative emotions. The word ‘should’ holds expectations and when we use it, it sets expectations of ourselves that we are unable to achieve.

When you replace the word ‘should’ with a positive action word like ‘will’, ‘can’, ‘am’, ‘going to’, you may feel very differently about what you say or think.  Chances are you will feel more positive, motivated and confident in yourself and your abilities. You are much more likely to make it happen.

Go ahead, try it!

This will ring true for Sacral beings - Generators & Manifesting Generators, when you feel the pressure from family, friends, society on how you ‘should’ spend your energy.  

You have a consistent, fiery, sexy, sacral energy that is POWERFUL!  As a sacral being, you have a defined sacral & a natural gut response you are meant to use.  This is where you need to check in with your gut.  Find alignment, stop giving away your energy to all the wrong places.  Give yourself permission to do what you really want.  

Come back to trusting your sacral, without any ‘shoulds’, so that you hear the clear ‘uh-huh’ or ‘uh-uh’ coming from your gut when you ask yourself a yes/no question… “Do I desire…?” “Does… light me up?” 

So practice & build that relationship!

Have you had a Projector in your life to help you see a more efficient path?  Have you felt what it feels like to be in the presence of a Projector?  Want help with this? I would love to give you that experience!  Book a free 30 minute Discovery Call to connect!

This is what I help sacral beings do in InHer Work. See if InHer Work is what you’re needing!